One of the biggest reasons couples get stuck in conflict is this: They treat subjective experience as if it were objective truth. Objective truthĀ is factual.Itās observable.It can be verified. Examples: āYou got home at 7:30.ā āWe had this...
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When couples hit a disagreement, most donāt realize theyāre falling into one of two predictable patterns. The first is: āIām right, youāre wrong.ā In this mode, the goal becomes winning. You might: invalidate your partnerās feelings dismiss their...
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There are several different styles of communication, yet some approaches work better with our partner than others. Which of these communication styles do you and your partner get into? Style 1: Partner 1: What shall we do for the holidays?...
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āIn everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.āĀ ~ Albert Schweitzer You...
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Hey everyoneā¦this is Stacy Lee LMFT and Director of CICSā¦in this recording I am going to read a blog that was written by one of the therapists here, Michelle Joy.Ā you can either listen here, read it or both if you are an overachieverā¦ ...
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The other day my husband, Dan had a reaction about me, which he chose to share. He said something along the lines of, āyou know, you are really a good balance between being creative and detail-oriented.ā I liked what I heard. āOh? Tell me moreā...
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“People don’t change.” Do you think that statement is true? In my 15 years of working with couples, I have seen many people change. In fact, I think that’s what good relationships are all about…we pull on each other...
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You messed up.Ā You really blew it.Ā Your partner is giving you heck about it, seething with disappointment and hurt.Ā Guilt washes over you, as your conscious mind reminds you that you didnāt keep your word or your end of a commitment.Ā Or you...
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In my practice, I hear many couples say, ” I just want my partner to understand me. Who wouldn’t want that? You tell your partner things, they truly get what you say and you feel understood.Ā And vice versa: your partner shares their...
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